My dog does not like to be petted by strangers and it is best to ignore him when I am with people. It’s so hard to explain to people that just because they don’t want you petting them, it doesn’t mean they don’t like you! This is such a wonderful post. Most dogs dislike being touched on the top of the head, on the muzzle, ears, legs, paws, and tail. Most of the time she has a space bubble about 5 feet around her. He's a year and a half old and ive had him since he was six weeks. Now every time he see another dog he pulls on his leash and charges and snarls. Maybe you're petting him in the wrong place and he's whining so that you'll pet him the right way. Family Paws is another great site that focuses on safe interactions between dogs and their human family members, with special emphasis on education for expecting families and families with infants. Its not because of a health issue and it’s not for having to go. You might want to try the Canine Behavior Interpretation and Observation group on FaceBook if you are on there. How to Love Your Dog –  Believe it or Not. hes pretty young, maybe 1 year? 2 year? Anyway, ever since he was a pup he has liked to roll onto his back and have his belly rubbed. Hmm… I’m still not totally sure if my guy is pro or anti-petting. It is amazing how most get it wrong and put them under stress. How Pets Help Ease the Transition to an Empty Nest, The Aging Differences Between Humans and Pets, Hill's® Science Diet® Adult Small Paws™ Chicken Meal & Rice Recipe dog food, Hill's® Science Diet® Adult Large Breed Chicken & Barley Recipe dog food, Adult Perfect Weight Small & Mini Dog Food. Photo about My dog loves me and wants me to pet him all the time. I contrast this with some footage of Summer, whose eyes are half shut with a look of bliss on her face, as she repeatedly walks back into my hand when I move it away. Thanks to Nancy S. for helping me look over these. Pepper has been with me a month and he has warmed up a lot since I first got him. You might want to take a look. He wouldn't let go. When he wants this, he seems me coming toward him (NEVER if I’m using my chair — not safe!) Yawns with You. Dogs certainly show what we could call ambivalence sometimes. 6 weeks ago we were at the hospital for appointments. Thanks for commenting! Although I didn’t have treats in the area, after I finished filming with Zani I gave her some spray cheese for being such a good sport. I thought (most) dogs just like to be petted!! Tail wagging and carriage depends so much on the dog. We anthropomorphize our animals all the time, giving them human characteristics and even creating an inner monologue for them. Pepper has been with me a month and he has warmed up a lot since I first got him. I strongly advise students to let the animal initiate contact. Thanks for sharing. (I edited in the corrected link you sent.) Hi Matthew, what good points. Once your dog happily allows you to pick him up nine out of 10 times, it’s time to wean your dog from treats. Thanks for letting me know. Most dogs hate being alone and become quite upset. I recommend it to anybody who wants to see a huge cluster of stress signals in a very short time, labeled in slow motion. This is another one of those disconnects between dog and people language. And many people are sharing it already! Thanks, Janet. Dog growling is a valuable means of communication, something that dog owners should appreciate and respect rather than punish. It's important to make time to pet your dog every day and allow others to pet him in a way he likes. So this follows into one of the points you mentioned – lip licking. (She actually does one in this video, although her head is down and it is hard to see.) The consent test is so easy, that once you try it, then it will just come naturally. Sorry I can’t be any help! Thanks. She pet him, took him out, and started feeding him by putting the food on her hand and then he would eat it from her hand. Thanks, Heather. If you could provide a video, I bet they would provide opinions! Post by BionicBigfoot » Mon Jul 28, 2008 2:30 am I have an 8 mos. I ask people not to pet her, but just to give her treats and let her have her space. So I have a couple of things. They are interested in body language stuff too. I do have a quick question though, the dog that you show sitting on the couch, what breed of dog is it? It’s kind of long, but you can get the idea: Handling and Grooming Counterconditioning. Summer says, “Yes, please!” to more petting. They push against you with their paws, straightening their legs. How wonderful you are out there standing up for what the animals want, and tell us so plainly. They lick their lips- ??? This is a great place to pet your dog while he’s sitting – just sit beside him, wrap your arm around his body and pet or scratch the chest region. Normally, if he isn’t in the mood to be pet, he will either duck his head away, or move away from me or whomever else is trying to pet him. To answer these questions, it's important to understand the signs dogs give before, during, and after petting. I bet you are right about Calamity. . This is one of the most common reasons dogs … He’ll hook his teeth into my bent finger and pull. OTOH, it has improved my skill at reading her body language. It’s interesting with my dogs because Zani is very sociable and loves most people and dogs, and Summer is very retiring and generally needs a lot of personal space. Take Jet, the author's Labrador and Staffordshire Bull terrier cross, for example.Great SoftyJet is a real soppy dog who loves nothing more than having his chest rubbed. And, hey, that’s just one of their endearing qualities we love about them most. It’s almost as if she’s saying “hey there, I know YOU won’t trap me into handling I don’t like, you can pet me, just here, below my shoulder blade please… ” Er, ok I may be getting a little carried away with the anthropomorphizing. My Newf is a velcro dog and there’s never been any question about his wanting petting – he’s downright PUSHY about it (once grabbed an old lady’s hand, with a “hey, where ya goin?” when she quit petting him to get back on her bus!) My Nora, a 14 month old Coton de Tulear, learns quickly and clearly needs mental, as well as physical, stimulus. Avoid the base of the tail, under the chin and the back of the neck. If that isn’t possible, try turning your dog to face you, which presents his back to the person who wants to pet him. I adopted a cat named Sushi. I may have had a little dog who did that once. If your cat bites you whenever you pet them, this is just their way of saying “I’m tired of this, stop” to you. I wish some more folks would publish some videos about petting dogs. I made an agreement with him that I would tell people not to pet him and just let him hang out – sometimes this works but more often people see him sitting or lying down when I am talking and think he is saying pet me – not sure why he is like this but otherwise he is the biggest love dog (at least to me ….). I’ll send you my email address. They learn by association that humans hands approaching and touching them predict great things. I cannot think of my life without him anymore. I’ll be publishing a video on that soon and you can see what you think. Dogs actually put up with a lot from us uncomplainingly. Be it intentional conditioning or unintentional conditioning. Sounds like a good sign. This doesn't mean you have to break up, but you could tell him that if your pet bothers him so much, perhaps he should live somewhere else. They stare at you for a long time. However, there are some things you can consider when figuring out the main causes and there are many things you can do … Newsflash. My other rescue is the hugest snugglebunny in the world and is the one who really just wants to curl up in your lap and be massaged everywhere. So let’s make videos. Like people, a dog might have mixed emotions about something, or be a little uncertain at first. edit. Gerd, thank you. – Janet. Keep in mind, some dogs make connections with certain people more than others, and although your puppy might like being pet on the belly at home with you, he may not like that when he is out and about with strangers. Are his ears back? I searched for videos on YouTube of dogs enjoying petting and got some pretty horrifying results. Good luck. It’s a great instructional video, and was a convenient segue into discussions about interacting with dogs and canine body language. I pet my dog when he is enjoying something else, so that he associates affection with something else he loves. i dont know. Thanks so much for this video Eileen! These are generally accepted observations but not set in stone. These body signals can sometimes mean different things depending on your dog’s breed, but many times they’re learned behaviors from everyday interactions between you and your pooch. Chances are, you’ll understand intuitively that your dog wants you to keep doing exactly what you’re doing. Training a Dog to Enjoy Petting or Handling. Do know if your dog goes back to his scampering ways, it’s time to bring the goodies back out and practice some more. I never knew! But you wouldn’t know it from watching videos on YouTube. My Pug will not let you stop petting him. For now, here is one by a friend of mine. So true! If your dog wants to lick you, he can really get into it, and a dog's tongue is rough, and they can just go and go, so it's a pussy licking like you've never had - so awesome. When your dog stops, you want to praise him and give him gentle pets. When your pup is around you, he may want you to walk him, play fetch, or give him a treat. Yet my own dog, Button, leans against me when she is in an affectionate mood and lifts up a paw. I love to know when my things are helping dogs and people. “It seems that in these dogs, the belly rub feels good,” she says. He’s lovely, but he is such an attention seeker! That’s a pretty clear signal! Thank you! said the dog owner in a pleading, desperate voice. It is a common to wonder why your dog wants them to watch you eat. My three dogs run the gamut. Animal Planet explains the scratch reflex as an involuntary movement. Thanks for teaching! It seems that belly rubs simply feel good, and without words, your dog wants to show you exactly what he wants. They flip over on their back. Since I’m “the author” and I never said a word about dominance, I’m a little confused by your comment. Briliant. And very useful too! I hope things go better for them and their dog. Dr. Sophia Yin has a wealth of information on dog body language, polite greeting behavior (from humans), and low stress handling. hes pretty young, maybe 1 year? Whether it's a new puppy, your long-time fur kid or a dog you've never met before, you should always look for the mutual agreement that the dog wants you to pet him. Lumping It: A Public Service Announcement, https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Voo3blXjFpI, Are you selfish? Hard to know without seeing the behavior. In social situations, away from home, she will sit in my lap or lie down beside me. They are such fascinating…and tolerant creatures. My rescue looks just like it and I have always been curious. I’ve shared it on my Pet Expertise Facebook page and I would like to link to it in an article on petexpertise.com. But when I stop as soon as she does that, she flops onto me again, this time, probably closer. He Wants You to Pet Him. She welcomes attention from people and other dogs. You requested some video of dogs being petted and I wanted to share Kira. I suggest petting the dog, perhaps starting on her chest, then stopping to see what she does. If I don’t pet him immediately he’ll nip at my fingers playfully, but he definitely loves being stroked. and if i stopped petting him while he is doing at this he whines and takes his paw and starts pawing at me like “more please, why did you stop. The best way to understand your dog’s behavior is to get to know their personality. Because this type of petting requires a fair bit of intimacy and is close to your dog’s delicate vitals, it is best reserved for dogs with whom you’ve already developed a trusting relationship. If your dog is hitting you with his paw or bumping you with his nose, it’s a common and natural way for him to communicate his needs and wants. Thank you – this is very helpful. Good luck, and sorry I can’t be more help. From learning about body language and signals, I’ve watched more about how I interact with my other two vizslas – one a rescue and one from a great breeder. Hi Gary, Glad you enjoyed the article. Next time you see a dog yawn, you may think, “Oh no, stress!” And miss the fact that the dog just turned three circles in a bed and lay down. Me too, Sue. Tailored nutrition with our special Small & Mini antioxidant blend for lifelong immune support, Supports healthy joints, immune system, digestion, lean muscle & beautiful coat, Over 70% of dogs lost weight within 10 weeks when fed this nutrition. old chihuahua who was adopted from a foster Mom. This just confirmed that he like it. I’ll tell you now something they would say, though, and that is that you probably don’t want the dog practicing that, whatever the reason for it is. Have a look at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Voo3blXjFpI Sorry that it is in German but you will understand it. He pays attention to me in public. Like a bullet, he is gone. In case you didn’t find it, the page called Video Examples for Teachers has some things that people find helpful. asked 2017-05-09 18:22:27 -0600. Can I remedy this behavior some how? We picked him off the street (lol) so I dont know his, history? All dog owners should know the basic signs of anxiety in a dog: avoidance, struggling, averting his gaze, licking his lips, "half-moon eye" or showing the whites of his eyes, and yawning are just a few. We pet, we stop, we see what the dogs say. It’s when they start ducking away that you usually have to worry. This is a question that we often get from sitters and owners who work with Rover. or may be during any situation? However, you do itch when you’re nervous too What you can learn on YouTube is that there are lots of dogs whose owners _think_ they are enjoying petting. One odd thing; my boy, Rascal loves playing bite games. My dog was sleeping in bed with me. But they aren’t. A few months ago, an aunt stayed with us and hanged around the home most of the day. By one year old, you puppy will be an adult dog – some behaviors may not change any time soon, but his needs in many areas have changed. He’s a lucky guy! If a dog doesn’t actively seek out your hand, then does it always mean that they don’t want to be petted? What you can learn on YouTube is that there are lots of dogs … Thank you! And brilliantly explained too! Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window), Click to share on Reddit (Opens in new window), Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Tumblr (Opens in new window), Click to share on Pinterest (Opens in new window), Click to share on LinkedIn (Opens in new window), Click to email this to a friend (Opens in new window). Insist on a sit at every corner, and change pace when you desire, not when the dog does. So if she is not feeling like snuggling then she won’t. Joanne, That’s interesting! Will also share on Facebook. By the way I had someone punish my dog for sitting politely for a greeting recently by patting her head. First, take a metaphorical step back and really look at your dog’s body language. Your Hound Day! The other one is a lip lick, which, like Summer’s, is totally different from his, “I’m uncomfortable, please stop” lick. Perhaps the most obvious reason, some dogs simply prefer the companionship of their human friends. Well, I never have had sex with my family dog…but did let him eat me out. 23:55. If my dog shows other stress signs within a few seconds, her yawn, for instance, is probably not because she suddenly got sleepy. Definitely don't grab at the dog's face and pet both ears roughly, since most dogs do not like that type of petting. Thank you Jess, and you may absolutely link to it in an article. I didn’t invent this, of course. 1. Thanks for the post. Good for you for making an agreement and protecting your guy! He’s happier and I feel less like a horrible dog mama. A dog taught to accept handling will be much less stressed at vet visits, for example. Even if you can’t post a video, anyone can learn a lot about dog body language on that group I think. And it’s … I signed the Pro-Truth Pledge: I have been having so many problems lately. My dog raises her front two paws when I do rub her tummy. Let me know if that’s okay with you. Denise. All her signs are very fleeting though, so I show some freeze frames to help us humans see what she is doing. I now feel so bad that I didn’t see that for so long! If your dog is hitting you with his paw or bumping you with his nose, it’s a common and natural way for him to communicate his needs and wants. | Lady Chauncey Barkington III's Finishing School For Dogs and Other Beasts, Est-ce que votre chien veut VRAIMENT être caressé ? But then it feels almost like a privilege when the standoffish ones break their rules sometimes and snuggle up. It’s a deeply innate behavior for him and we’ll live with it. (That also may have been part of why she didn’t want to be petted.). When he starts to wiggle a little bit or nuzzle up against you, that's your sign that he's ready for a good round of petting. I was worried I might be petting my dog too much, thats how I ended up here. I don’t know why this is happening she … But a certain amount of handling is necessary for the health of the dog. We find that one of the major training issues that soooo many people have is that they reward their dog with ” petting” and worse still, ear ruffling or head patting Without nderstanding their dogs reaction to such. Adopting a shelter dog is a rewarding experience. THAT is an EXCELLENT article! I pet him on my own terms and I don't allow him to demand or try and force me to touch him when its not my idea My 3 year old service dog has been so kind gentle observant and has even saved my life. (Except maybe the chocolate example is not perfect for me personally!). Dogs left home alone for many hours at a time will often sleep more than 12-13 hours per day. Another dog I know does the same thing. The closer you stay to your dog, you will realise that the better is your … Your Dog Is Scared. Oh Kate you are welcome, nice to see you here. This kind of thing is so valuable I think since dogs move so quickly. One of the principles that people follow is to notice when these signs come in clusters, as they do in the movie. That’s great, Carolyn! My dog enjoys petting under most circumstances – he tries his best to re-initiate petting my nuzzling my arm or pawing at me if I stop. The urination is submission. My advice? I’ve been of the belief that the behaviors you state are “signals that could go either way” are actually rooted in the “dislike” realm of behaviors but can go to the “like” side through conditioning. I think it’s great that your dog greets you, though! Get ready — we are about to explore the science behind dog petting. Enter your email address to receive notifications of new posts by email. But when they come home and see their house in disarray, and get mad, they see the calming signals and assume it’s the “guilty” look . You can post a video there and ask opinions. This is one when he is being scratched in a certain spot — usually on his neck — he lifts his chin up into the air and half-closes his eyes and stretches and licks. In the video I show the petting consent test with two of my dogs. And Calamity is wicked smart anyway….. I am female and would just lay on my back with my legs spread wide open. The will generally learn to enjoy touch on its own.) About our Ads. 2 year? My dog pats my arm to pet him, but when I do, he sometimes yawns and looks away, and gives other indications of ambivalence. She pet him, took him out, and started feeding him by putting the food on her hand and then he would eat it from her hand. (Those can be the best kind!). Sam Basso PHOENIX , AZ AREA: (602) 708-4531 OR, if you are out of this area, inquire about a telephone or e-Lesson Email: [email protected] Dogs bite for many reasons. Another excellent informative post! I dont know what breed he is, I think hes a mix. Doggonesafe.com: How to Love Your Dog –  Believe it or Not. The smell of my vagina would make him go crazy. But, why do dogs like to be pet so much, and what are the best places to pet a dog? This is really fantastic info! But to answer your question, I don’t think I’ve heard about that. Promotes healthy brain, eye, muscle & immune system development. This will let it know that it is okay to seek your attention at these times. If people just understood theirs and others dog’s signals there would be alot less bites and happier dogs. Having been through a similar situation with a shelter dog on death row, I knew how frustrating situations like this could be, especially when the dog leaves scratches and bite marks all over. I have quite a few vids showing something I did really wrong, and how I fixed it. I click him and treat him WHILE I pet him so he has a positive association of my affection. Chrissie enjoys spending time with all her family members when she is not teaching, writing or blogging. The problem is that he is so cute people think he must love to be petted – he growls and then will snap. The children are taught about asking the adult handler’s and the dog’s consent. Well done x. He always comes up to me and pushes his face into my hand until I pet him. Good luck, and check back with the blog! Well, we do not know if dogs experience a condition similar to the human bipolar diagnosis. - JTB Massage, Pingback: Hug (and Massage!) There is a process called classical conditioning or counterconditioning that can be used to get your pup not only tolerating but enjoying being handled. Thanks so much! Chew toys and other items will give your dog something else to focus on instead of your hand. I hope this helps get the word out there! This could be an inguinal display, an extreme display of appeasement. We’ve made good progress with hand feeding and selective handling, including daily grooming. A different behavior occurs when a dog rolls on his back as soon as he is approached. To do the petting Consent Test I suggest settling down with the dog when she is relaxed, in a space in which she can leave. It’s time to go- you’re taking your dog out to go potty or maybe for a car ride. © Eileen Anderson 2012                                                                                                                               eileenanddogs.com, This is fantastic! She recommends asking the dog's human for permission to pet, then turning to the side and crouching down by bending at the knees, instead of bending over at the waist. Why Does My Dog Bite Me? We use cookies to give you the best possible experience on our website. Kindly ask that others pet your dog in those areas. I haven’t, but that’s such an interesting idea! You remove the stronger/more active/suspected bully dog from the situation and see whether the other dog tries to re-initiate play with him or her. Good for you for noticing what your pup likes and doesn’t like. Without doing that, if a dog relaxed, they would collapse on their side and not get as good a rub on their belly. But careful there, kitty may bite! It’s definitely made me more aware of what my little guy is telling me. I have read so many feeds saying dogs don’t mark on purpose but it’s true with my dog. This could be a distancing maneuver, but some dogs seem to enjoy it as a way to stretch. This is a great article. A few months ago, an aunt stayed with us and hanged around the home most of the day. They are easy to miss! Good solid, practical advice, and I totally agree about sharing more appropriate videos, some people just truly have no idea about dog behaviour. dogs. Have you ever heard the saying, "Let sleeping dogs lie?" I hope people watch and learn. IF your dog comes back for more, absent some other factor that could cause him to be coming to you, it’s a pretty good indicator that something good is going on. Seems fair enough to me – there are times I would love some chocolate, and others where I would rather someone not stick it in my face. There’s a very general rule that a tail wagging with a high carriage may not be friendly, but the lower the tail goes the friendlier the wag might be.